On our podcast ‘Tales That Tethr’, tethr Founder & CEO Matt Zerker interviews entrepreneurs, experts, thought leaders, and regular people about what is means to be a man, the challenges that modern men face, and how to overcome challenges and live life in a more connected and authentic way.
Welcome to Coach’s Corner, a series featuring mental health and wellbeing professionals in the tethr community where we get to learn a little more about the amazing work they do. If you want to share your work with the community, click here. Today we’re featuring Gabe Lee, who is a High Performance Mindset Coach also working towards his Master’s in Counselling Psychology, from Richmond, BC.
What led you to a career in mental health and wellbeing?
Talk therapy changed my life when I first began seeing a Counsellor in my first year of Post-Secondary education a decade ago. Recognizing the impact that a neutral opinion/bird's eye-view had on my own life, I'm inspired to provide that experience for others.
For anyone who isn't familiar, can you explain the kind of work that you do with patients/clients? Do you have a specialized area you focus on?
I'm currently a certified High-Performance Mindset Coach, and am set to enter my Master's Degree in Counselling Psychology.
If you could only give one piece of advice to someone struggling with their mental health and wellbeing, what would it be?
Celebrate every victory, no matter how big-or-small. On the bad days, the small victories are what keeps you going.
What's the most important change you'd like to see in men's mental health? Or something you've already seen change?
For more arenas and environments like tethr to manifest themselves in face-to-face interactions. The more places that boys and men can have to feel safe to express their vulnerability the better, in my opinion.
What do you value most about peer support in a person's mental health and wellbeing journey? What does peer support look like to you?
Q1: one of the core mantras I live by are: "I'm not above, or below, anyone, I'm always right beside you."
Q2: peer support looks like having someone in your life who will show up and actively listen without judgement.
How do you explain the difference between thoughts and feelings and the relationship between the two?
For me, your thoughts dictate your feelings, which in turn influence your actions. A popular form of therapy is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), which suggests that clients become aware of, then hopefully, re-program their negative thoughts into a more positive one. So, thoughts are super, super important for me.
What is the most inspiring part of your work, the thing that keeps you going? What is one thing you have learned that you want to share with everyone reading?
Q1: Having an impact. I was told once by a parent of a client ... "think about the impact you've had on my son, and now think about the amount of people in the world that haven't impacted anyone like that." I have that quote written behind my desk on a sticky note. That will drive me for as long as I do this line of work.
Q2: Be mindful of how you communicate to others, as everything that you say has the potential to change the trajectory of someone's life - for better or worse.
To everyone who has made it this far, I wish you health and happiness. And in the words of Kobe Bryant: "the most important thing is to try & inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do."